Face wisely for feedback!
August 2015 edition
Whether it is a compliment or insult our mind reacts in various ways. So let’s discuss something useful to get rid from the reactions towards feedback.
If the listener praises you at the end of listening what you have said or after reading what you have written something may be with regards to dhamma or some other topic… then be careful!
If the listener insults you at the end of listening what you have said or after reading what you have written something … then also be careful!
Be patient on what you get as feedback. Analyze the both situation carefully. There may be several reasons for praising or insulting.
May be what you have said is correct… but the listener may not get the correct idea on it and misunderstood it… So listener may insult by thinking that what you have express is wrong & not suitable. Or else what you have said is actually can be wrong and may be listener try to point out the mistakes of what you express.
Also same for the compliments too. The listener or reader can misunderstand what you express and can be praise you without any real understanding. Or else sometimes can praise with actual understanding. But you never know as it is difficult to find out what their level of understanding is.
In both situations the listener or reader may praise or insult you by grabbing the wrong point out of what you express. So it’s useless to be happy or thrilled by the praises or compliments OR useless to be worry or angry on critics / complains / insults.
There can be more reasons for the feedback. If the listener or reader likes you as a person or fan of yours then that can be the reason behind their feedback. They might have praise you without even considering what you say or written.
Or if the listener may hate you as a person so he / she doesn’t like to accept what you say even if it is so correct and suitable to achieve something best for life. Then the feedback always comes as negative.
So there can be many reasons like these. That’s the main reason that we shouldn’t jump up and thrilled by the praises / compliments we get on our words, activities or thoughts when they are noticeable to others. And that is the same reason that we shouldn’t jump up with anger, hatred or worries by the critics / insults / bad words / complains get on our words, activities or thoughts when they are noticeable to others.
So if you still have this inpatient quality that means you still have a lot to improve as a true human being. You clearly can use loads of dhamma to cleanse yourself from these kind of evil qualities which actually harmful to you so badly.
Because it’s not what your true nature is. You true nature is neutralized and act with purity in front of the feedback. But the unawareness / ignorance make that spoiled with the data you collected through out your life experiences and guide you to jump with the reactions.
That’s why it’s like a peeling off a plantain tree, Outer layers of the trunk are peeled off, one by one… as one goes inward one comes to no pith or hardwood. Only the waste of energy & time can be experienced and end up with nothing meaningful!
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